You think you want to be in a relationship, but that doesn’t seem to turn out to be anything you do. If this continues to happen and there is no clear explanation for it, you may want to start ruining things on your own. There are different ways you can do this without even seeing it.
You always choose the wrong guy for one thing. You may have Bad Boy Syndrome, which keeps you from choosing the right guy for you anyway. Do the guys you’re all dating seem to treat you like something they scraped from the bottom of their shoe, yet you’re still? You can give every guy you get involved with all the power in a relationship, which means he decides how the relationship will go. Perhaps you’re zero in on guys who aren’t emotionally available or just won’t commit. While these guys may be thrilling, unpredictable and amazing in bed, they won’t stay with you, and you know that right from the beginning.
Another way you put barriers in your path towards true love is by staying too long in bad relationships. These are the ones you think you need to leave because you don’t get what you want. The sad thing is that you come up with all of the world’s reasons about why you’re staying in the relationship. You tell yourself it’s going to get better or he’s going to change. Love does not excuse disappointment. Yeah, love is very important but to make a relationship successful you need other things. There are just a few things like integrity, reliability, honor, and contact. When in a relationship there is real love all the rest will be there as well.
One of the best ways of sabotaging your relationships is by basing your decisions from a place of fear. Rather than doing it because you want it to be, you do it because you feel Necessary. You are afraid if you do what your intuition tells you to do that you are not going to have the friendship and life you really want. You realize that you may have to make some tough decisions by facing things that upset you, or make you unhappy. So instead of speaking up, you are calm to it. You’re avoiding the important questions because you’re not sure you want to know the truth. This is why you stick your head in the sand, instead of noticing all the warning signs around you.
The most destructive part of your insecurity is that you’re really the one that’s scared of committing to someone. Granted, commitment can be a rather frightening thing because for the rest of your life, after all, you are pledging yourself to one man. This is enough to scare everybody. The thing to remember, though, is that when you find the man in a relationship that gives you everything you want, you’ll be more open to putting away the fear and opening yourself to commitment.